Well I'm my religion for the men's part. They want use men's to buy our wife's. I don't consider it buying but instead showing a blessing that we truly love the women that we love to have some respect to give some money to the parents of saying thank you for raising a wonderful women like their daughter. Not just only that we have to have a green lady which is like a bridesmaid who has to follow her everywhere just in case she does something stupid. Then we also need to have a best man. So that he can help the me or whoever is getting married to the bride. Because in our culture the family members like brother, sisters, mom and dad has to give out a beer shot to the husband. That's why their is a best man there to help the husband out with all of the shots. Not just only that but we also have to have 2 big ceremony one at the bride house and also one at the husband house. One is for the farewell into your next part of life and the other one is welcome into the real world or welcome home. And for the girl part they have to help get dressed up in the "Hmong" traditional clothes when they are going to leave to their husband house to know that they going to be fully married and also to show respect. They parents of the bride will eventually give back some part of the money that their husband gave them to help them both towards the future so yeah. The ceremony are also dealing with killing an animal such as pig or cow to help feed all of the relatives and the family members an etc. not just only that the men's have to sit at the tables and talk about their part of life to the family members so show some respect. And before taking the beer shots the husband and the best man have to bow down to the bride mom and dad to also show respect. Yes this is a lot more things but that's the main part of it