You are who you are. You can't change your parents, because those are the ones you have. You can't pick the things you want and the things you don't want. Whats being thrown at you is yours, or maybe yours for just while to teach you a lesson. Take what you have and enjoy your life. Remember birthdays don't come twice, every year you are different from how you used to be. If life is hard, figure out how to untangle the knots. A day well spent.