My darling girl, I think Jon is a bloody idiot - he is flirting but not serious and I don't think he is butterfly - but it hurts you and me too, for him to have stupid conversations like that. I think, unfortunately, philippine girl is trying her luck to get out of her country. - it doesn't sound like they have anything special or anything in common. He doesn't realise how much pain he is causing and would be so sad if he did realise. Even as a small kid Jon won't talk about emotions he will pretend they don't apply to him even if he has caused them - I don't think he is involved he just s wants to try to make everyone happy and says those things to her not to hurt her feelings. Like the business about not having credit - if he wanted to talk to her he would get credit I can tell you. You are the very first girl he has ever wanted me to meet. When he came up here with Kay he left her for days with us while he went off - he has never done that with you. He is so proud of you, he told me so much before I met you.