When I started learning how to make friends for myself, I thought that I’ll just go out to clubs and bars more often. I thought that that would make me just bump into people who could become my friends. I was way off.
That was kind of embarrassing because people don’t really go to these places to meet new folks. They bring their existing friends, and hang out in groups. When I attempted to join conversations, it often seemed as I was either hitting on the person, or just being a try-hard.
Then I started going to what I call “Semi-private” environments. People often start these around an interest, a hobby, or an industry. If you go there, walk up to someone, and introduce yourself, they’ll see that as perfectly normal. It’s way harder to do that in a public place like a bar or coffee shop.
So, there you go, I started making friends way easier as I started experimenting with these communities. I think you can make it easy for yourself by learning from my mistake.