I will not write you first. I welcome messages if you're really interested in talking. However, I work 52 hours a week (+ 90min daily travel time), I run a social club, and I'm training to walk across Canada which eats up 3 - 5 hours a morning. I probably would be interested in talking, but have no time to waste with blind messages. If you take the time to message me, I will try to reply.
I will not judge you. It doesn't matter who you are or what you've done, it's not my place to pass judgement. We are all human, we have strengths and flaws, we've all made mistakes. I will be completely honest about who I am, and hope you can do the same with me. I will not lie, but I do not promise to answer every question.
With that all said, the more you write the better your answer will be. It is difficult to talk to someone sending only a few words. Try to be engaging, and interesting.