Another way in which men and women differ is in the way they listen. Research has shown that men tend to place all of their attention on one thing at a time, but women do not.Instead, women commonly divide their attention between a number of things at once and make connections between these different things. Since this comes so easily to women, they are sometime frustrated when men struggle to do this. For example, a common complaint among women is that when a men is watching television,he often doesn’t hear a question asked by the preson sitting right beside him. Sakura Kumi has witnessed this many times in her house. Sakura says, “My mother used to get so frustrated trying to get my fether’s attention while he was watching TV,and l did too. So she got into the habit of standing in front of the TV and saying, ‘Hiroshi, l’m about to ask you a question’. It’s become sort of a family sort of a family joke’’.
Research has shown that these communication differences can be partially explained by the different ways in which the male and female brains to be stronger and wired. For example,the left side of the brain,where logic and literal thinking are processed, tends to be stronger in men. Meanwhile, women tend to think with the right side, which is where comprehension is processed. The female brain also has more connections between the right and left sides, so their thought is likely to be more complex and sophisticated.
Research has also shown that the different ways that boys and girls are raised have a significant impact on how they communicate. Girls are raised to be more sociable and to recognize and be sensitive to the feelings of others. On the other hand, boys are trught to be more direct and goal – oriented. Being raised in such different ways is bound to create two different styles of communication.
While the differences in the way men and women communicate can sometime cause confusion, these differences are also what help make women and men such good partners.The strengths and weaknesses of one gender balances of one gender balances out those of the other. This balance is what makes the relationship between and men so rich, interesting, and satisfying.