Prior to the marriage proposal, the groom's family will send a representative. generally a senior and respected member, to the family of the intended. He will play the part of a middleman who seeks to find out more about the intended bride. This is so that an assessment can be made as to her suitability and whether she is agreeable to the marriage. He also looks into her family background and her piety Once this is favorably ascertained, a date for the marriage will be arranged and the dowry decided upon. Then, both sides will go ahead with the marriage proposal.