Curiosity, say the authors, is an antidote to our all-too-common way of addressing those who disagree with us by judging their actions and ideas, telling them what we want them to do, and blaming them for their failure to do what we'd like. In contrast, when we adopt an attitude of curiosity, we ask open- ended questions about the other person's reasoning and motivation, and we enlist them in exploring solutions. It's the difference between saying, "Why did you put James and Kevin in the same group today? You know they always argue!" and saying, "What do you usually consider when assigning students to groups? What are you ideas about how we can improve group dynamics and avoid arguments?" The latter questions can lead to a relationship-building conversation that can open opportunities for learning.