How to Give Advice
Everyone has an opinion, but sometimes it’s not easy to give advice. This is really true for important relationships. Here are some tips on how you can give advice in different relationships.
To a child if you aren’t careful, children might get angry when you give them advice. They are often immature, and they don’t understand that you want to help. It’s useful to tell them you understand what they are going through before you give them advice. Be considerate, think about how they might feel, and remember that their opinions matter. It’s not helpful to speak loudly or to criticize; this makes children feel worse, and they might not listen to you.
To a co-worker It can be difficult to give advice to people at work, so it’s often good to apologize first. For example, say, “I’m sorry, but I think you could …” And remember that it’s never a good idea to judge people. Give advice about what you think should change about the person’s work, not about the person! Also remember that in work situations, you often have to compromise. You may give advice, but the person might not take it!
To a friend Friends can be the hardest people to give advice to. It’s important to be honest, but you should also be kind. When you give advice to a friend, don’t argue. Try to communicate with your friend. Ask questions and really understand your friend’s problem before you give advice.
These tips are useful in other types of relationships, too. The important thing to remember is to be patient with others, and give them a chance to respond to your advice. It’s also helpful to give advice when the person is ready to listen. Don’t give advice when the person is extremely upset or stressed. Try to find a time when he or she is more relaxed.