Love and the pattern of relationships will often be fashioned on a person’s upbringing and the family life they experienced. While a person may have come from a loving home with parents who respected each other, shared responsibilities and managed to stay married, this will perhaps be the kind of relationship they will want for themselves. On the other hand, while a person may have come from a hostile environment with parents who fought and ended in divorce, this may perhaps be the kind of relationship they may be needed