Because we are raised in dysfunctional families through generations our view and messaging on how we are to be in the world is distorted. We all are looking for our needs to be met in some form or another. If we say "No' people will think we are selfish/bad/unkind/unloving etc, so we put our own needs back on the burner. This can become an unhealthy habit as we loose sight of what we need. It leads to resentment in the end, so find ways to take care of your own needs and look after yourself by establishing healthy boundaries. It might take some time, but give it a whirl. Any thoughts?