I’d like a definition of what constitutes a stable sexual relationship. Stable can’t be synonymous with regular otherwise every other married man would claim to be single. Or at least that is what we are led to believe. In New Zealand when you separate, you are still legally married and the only grounds for divorce is two years separation, so it was my newly acquired ‘lack of a stable sexual relationship’ that found me classified, for the first time in a decade and a half, as single.