3 Describe your perspective and feelings. Express your views and feelings openly and directly, but do it with assertive "I" statements rather than aggressive "you statements. For example, rather than saying, "You are wrong" or "You make me so mad when you say instead, "I'm not sure I agree" or "I feel upset when you Success at this step will result in the other person understanding your perspective. It will also create an open atmosphere that encourages the other person to examine his or her own behaviors, and their consequences, rather than simply trying to defend and justify them