woman went into a small cafe in South Carolina in the and ordered a cup of when finished with coffee, she paid 15i00, which was much more than is cont She told the cafe to use the money custoetsen needed it why did she do dniu Was he bnng or could it he that he was at of a more basic bisman motivation. the will to survive The cafe where this took place where local people gutacted regularly As word the woman's generosity to alsn leave a little extra money as This happened at a time of high unemployment, when no one knew wlio would their job next. The s the shop realived they needed help Mitain each other through a diffinult economic situation. Let's luve a look at the findings of psychologists who have studied kindness as it relates to our that instinct The basic concept is people are kind to each other to ensure l, that it is in survival another When we interest to help one are kind, we connect with other people and create a sense of comm in which to live We do kind things because we want others to do kind things for us in other words we want to foster reciprocity between people because it helps all to survive. There are two ways reciprocity works. There's direct reciprocity in which two people agree to a specific exchange fo example, I agree to help you move some heavy boxes and you agree to help me review for my eam is an The coffee shop tale however, In this example of indirect reciprocity. then case, I do something for you. you help someone else that person goes on to help a or fourth person. In this way we establish that is ask one another for help. Through these we build a bond with acts our family, our one another be it friends, neighbors and thereby a our that helps us all to sense of community daily.