The couple is discouraged from seeing each other or going out together. They are also forbidden from being together in the house. These restrictions are implemented to prevent any unhealthy, potentially embarrassing situations from arising. If there is a need for the couple to meet, the groom has to seek permission of the bride's parents, as she was still under their care. Months before the engagement period is over, the groom's family sends representatives to the bride's family to discuss the wedding plans. The items discussed include the venue and time of the solemnisation(akad nikah) and the formal ceremony(persandingan), the number offamily members present during the solemnisation and the details of the ceremony itself.