5 principles to live by when helping others;
1- never work harder on someone else's problem than they do.
2- you can't help someone who doesn't have a problem.
3- if you solve a problem for someone instead of with them, you will only have to do it again.
4- if someone asks for your help you have permission to ask them about ALL the details of why and how the problem occurred.
5- helping someone who refuses to repent is dumb!