The key elements of the program are:
(i) letting go of the belief that children respond to logical reasoning;
(ii) modeling emotion self-regulation through non-argumentative
communication; (iii) clearly stating expectations; (iv) consistently
using the 1-2-3 counting system as a gentle warning signal to stop
disruptive behaviors; (v) consistently using time-out or a time-out
alternative, such as withdrawal of privileges, as a consequence if
disruptive behavior persists; (vi) encouraging desirable behaviors,
such as getting ready, through the use of incentives; and (vii)
enhancing the parent-child relationship through removal of anger
from disciplining (Phelan, 2010a). Hawton and Martin's (2011) 1-2-3
Magic & Emotion Coaching program includes the elements outlined
above and also focuses on emotion coaching.