Dining Etiquette
Dining in Laos is similar to the rest of Southeast Asia, but in many ways is truly a combination of its neighbors as there are aspects of all these dining techniques rolled into one in Laos.
If you are lucky enough to be invited to eat at a local's house be sure to bring a small gift to show your appreciation; fruit or pastries are good choices. When meeting locals, try to arrive on time and remove your shoes before entering the house or restaurant if others have done so before you. Greet everyone upon arrival, beginning with the elders. Also wait to be shown a seat as elders are generally seated first and your host may show you to a pre-assigned seat.
As you sit down you may encounter a few different settings. Many people, especially when serving sticky rice, eat with their right hand and only their right hand as you may be expected to dine in the same manner. In other situations, you may find chopsticks to be the dining utensil of choose and when noodles are involved you will almost always receive chopsticks. In some places, and among some people, forks and spoons are common and this is a growing trend throughout the country. In this case use the spoon in the right hand to eat from and hold the fork in the left hand to push food onto the spoon, but don't eat from the fork. Only in high end restaurants will you find a knife on the table.
When the meal arrives, the dishes are placed in the middle of the table. Serving and eating begin in order of age and honor (and men are served first, then women) so don't begin until you're directed to do so by your host. If serving yourself, be sure to never touch the serving spoon to your plate or if no serving spoon is present, take foods from the communal bowls with the back end of your chopsticks. Among the dishes will probably be soup and a starch, typically rice. The rice is the main course and must be treated as such, while the soup, starch, and any other food in a bowl should be eaten by bringing the bowl up to your mouth. In order to accomplish this you are expected to have both hands on the table at all times, even having your elbows on the table is acceptable in most situations.
When you are finished eating, be sure to finish all the food on your plate and in your bowl, as leaving any food behind is considered wasteful and rude. Once the food is done, place your chopsticks together on top of your rice bowl or on the chopstick rest next to your plate if you have one. If you have a spoon and fork, place then face down together on your plate.
If you are dining in a restaurant you will have to go to the register to get and pay for your bill as the Lao find it odd and somewhat rude to bring a bill to your table. In restaurants catered to tourists check to see if a service charge has been added. If no service charge is included tipping is at your discretion; in most nice restaurants tips of 5-10% are expected, but in local restaurants and in towns or villages tips are not expected or required.