I don't want this to be a depressing post. Mainly because there's no point and I'd hope it doesn't get removed. Not trying to insight some pity party. Sorry for the lengthy read.
You know, I hear over and over about all these lonely guys. I hear them say they feel alone and left out. I did too. This is coming from a guy with zero relationship experience. But taking a step back, there is an alarming number of guys like this. I stepped outside myself here for a moment and noticed all the posts and comments and stories of rejection, loneliness, feelings of worthlessness and anti-attraction. Hell, even guys that are 20+ that have never even kissed someone. These people, myself included, feel worthless in the dating world. Hell, I'm pretty happy with my life other than that, but I don't even feel like I have a chance anymore with relationships. It seems like so much work for the bare minimum return. My question is, why?
Look, I know there are lonely girls. And maybe I'm blind and there are as many of them as guys, but this is r/askmen so I'm asking men. It feels like the ratios are unbalanced. Do you think being on Reddit makes it seem like there are more of us than there actually are? I know Reddit attracts a certain crowd, but it's a big site. There's a lot of variety in the user-base. Do you think that there have always been this many of us but due to the advent of the internet and social media we hear about it more. I sort of think all of this, but then I began to really listen to people I actually know. I was shocked that I wasn't the only one not in a relationship, let alone having never even experienced one. And I don't feel like this is even related to the shut-in, overweight, social anxiety crowd. Many of my friends are pretty normal. I mean, I exercise, I work, I've asked out plenty of girls... The crippling depression that has recently developed doesn't help but nothing really seems to work. I'm just curious what you're thoughts are on this subject matter.
EDIT: I really appreciate the comments. I tried to respond to all of you.