You become truly FREE when you stop trying to find fulfillment/purpose in the external world. The external world is transitory and is always subject to change. The inner is the REALITY:
"bring your energy back inside your own body. If you're always reaching outside yourself, you're not letting yourself keep up your own energy. You're always casting your energy out, like a net, hoping to snare that which you desire. This is a huge drain on your psyche... Part of needing comes from having an externally balanced emotional system. This means that you require feddback, affirmation, attention and so forth from the people around you in order to remain emotionally balanced. If the energy stops flowing from without, you crave it and you cast that net out again.