Happiness is not measured by the outward expression of joyous behaviours. For example, a person who is in a grieving period over the death of a parent may appear sad, but this person may be very grateful for having this parent live lovingly so long or for granting a peaceful death. The inner experience of this person is
Negative emotions too play a helpful role in our lives and so recognising our negative feelings is just as important as recognising our positive feelings. For example, negative affect such as frustration or even mild depression can play a valuable role in signalling that a goal is unattainable and that it is time to pursue a modified goal. Positive affect is often inappropriate in situations of loss or bereavement, and may lead an observer to conclude that the person is insensitive or uncaring. Thus in some situations, negative affect is a more appropriate response, and experiencing disappointment, sadness or grief may be beneficial for our long term well-being and social relationships (Huppert, 2005).