everyone are we ready okay today I will talk about three elements of interpersonal attraction that are important in any relationship if you remember interpersonal attraction is when a person likes or wants a relationship with another person it when people hear this term they think of romantic relationships however attraction is a part of all relationships including those with friends family and romantic Partners so the three elements I will talk about today are physical attractiveness similarity and exchange I'm sure it's not surprising that physical beauty is one of the most important elements of attraction in his speed-dating study Peter and I found that the most important part of Attraction for men was Beauty even if they said all their qualities were more important other researchers have found that people believe that beautiful people are more intelligent interesting happy and kind studies also shows that teachers behave better toward attractive children and mothers of beautiful babies give their babies more attention in that interesting another important element of Attraction is easy to understand it is similarity this means that two people feel that they are more or less the same in a number of different studies psychologists found that people are more likely to choose friends and partners of the same age race class and with similar opinions this is because people who are similar feel more confident around one another they feel better about themselves and Peter Tosh speed dating study both men and women said that similarity was most important in choosing a partner the third element I want to talk about his exchange this is when two people give to and receive from each other but for example they can help each other share things and give love important Point here is that people have to feel good about Exchange in a relationship have you ever been in a relationship where one person gave more than the other was the relationship happy probably not if two people feel good about their exchanges they will continue in the relationship is not the relationship can grow weak so in conclusion there are the three major elements of attraction that are important for all relationships physical attractiveness similarity and exchange any questions