(8) One husband, married 40 years, told me "I don't know what happened, except I finally realized my wife had made me her slave-not by yelling at me or ordering me around, but by appearing to be helpless. I was getting a few aches and pains of my own, I guess, and it wasn't fun anymore feeling I was "The Big Man" who could do everything. Finally, one day when she told me to mop the kitchen floor because she needed to take a nap, I said, 'Do it yourself or leave it dirty!' I thought she'd faint from the shock, but it did her a world of good. It seemed to break a pattern that was bad for both of us."