I hope you find a good man too someday. But I think you need to wait so you can get over your divorce. It's normal that it takes some years until you are ready to find a new man. Then you can concentrate on bringing your debts down. I think you will have very big difficulties to find a man who will help you with your debts. Maybe later when you have less debts and you feel ready inside. Take good care and thank you for nice chatting (moon wink)