Gil: That’s beautiful. I could not have said it better. One of the things we do in mindfulness practice is to look at the quality of how we are—how our body feels, how our feelings and mind feel. If you are sensitive, you can feel the difference. You can feel that in a genuine letting go, there is an ease and a lightness, and hopefully a sense of joy. If it is pushing away, those good qualities will not be there. I learned this the hard way. There were times when I thought I was successfully letting go of something, but there was a kind of low grade neutral feeling. What I learned is that, if there is no joy in letting go, then you have not really let go. So there is a kind of litmus test, which is seeing if there is some kind of joy in letting go.
New Questioner: I have somewhat of a related question. Let’s say that you are clinging to something, and you find that you are having difficulty in letting go of this thing. At what point do you avoid this thing instead of facing it and trying to let go of it.