As for my ex, you have been asking me why would i not want to let the love rekindle should she comes back to me.
I would think that one should not be living in memories n should move on.
In fact ever since she went back to Thailand after her work permit expires, i have been living in memories.
I 1st met her when she was working in Benson's Thai disco. I went down almost everyday n get to know her more n eventually we get together. At that point of time, our world was only her n me. We have a good 3 months being in this happy world till she have to go back to Thailand. And that's when the world changed. It's no longer just her n me. Her so call ex boyfriend came in. We haven't really been happy since. Even when i fly over to visit her, she always seems to be troubled by so many problems. Her shop rent, her father's wellness, brother's girlfriend getting pregnant out of wedlock etc. I often told her that i could no longer find the "her" I knew from Singapore. All she did was to apologize n replied that things will get better after she settled her problems. Well, this never came true.
At the end, it even comes to a stage where she just went missing from my life. And with the set of memories I had, i held on n waited for 2 years. But i just feel that there should be a limit to everything n let go should the time comes. And after we did, we should not turn back.
Maybe you will find consensus in this, if you compare it with your 1st love.