There is just lack of enlightenment and that is why you haven't noticed. We are truly powerful human beings. In everything, there is more positive then neg. An example: A person makes a rude remark towards you and you stay secretly hurt while you don't say anything. Now here's the catch. The positive outlook is that you are being taught by your own actions because you didn't like how you felt. So, next time there will be communication in a great manner.