As someone who experiences the same fears - if for different reasons - as your "girlfriend", I can tell you that there is nothing you can do to prove to her that she needn't be afraid. After living with the fear of commitment for many years, it is very hard to suddenly let go of it for anyone. With that said, you can help her lessen her anxiety towards commitment by being patient and understanding. When she gives you these conflicting messages ("I like, maybe even love, you but I can't be in a relationship with you"), you must always remember to not take it personally. If it is hard for you to be in love with such a contradictory person, it is even harder to be the contradictory person. Nothing can really describe the agony of loving someone and constantly wishing to be with them but having to fight daily against fears that you KNOW are irrational barriers to your happiness.
As someone who experiences the same fears - if for different reasons - as your "girlfriend", I can tell you that there is nothing you can do to prove to her that she needn't be afraid. After living with the fear of commitment for many years, it is very hard to suddenly let go of it for anyone. With that said, you can help her lessen her anxiety towards commitment by being patient and understanding. When she gives you these conflicting messages ("I like, maybe even love, you but I can't be in a relationship with you"), you must always remember to not take it personally. If it is hard for you to be in love with such a contradictory person, it is even harder to be the contradictory person. Nothing can really describe the agony of loving someone and constantly wishing to be with them but having to fight daily against fears that you KNOW are irrational barriers to your happiness.
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