We like our au pairs to be part of the family; to joing us for meals, to be with us during holidays, to go out with us to restaurants or shows on occaission, to bring their friends over, or when we have family movie nights, to join us when they are not "working". When it's possible, we like for our au pair to join us on vacations. We care about the safety of our au pairs and ask that they let us know where they are when they are out of the house. (We have no desire to regulate or control where they go We just want to know where they are, so we can help if they are hurt or in danger).