Likewise, parents with children from hard places are likely to encounter others who will not understand
or agree with an approach that places such a significant emphasis on connecting, especially in
response to defiance. Many people may misinterpret or misunderstand what we are suggesting, especially
if they are not familiar with children from hard places and the impact their history can have. Even so,
we encourage you to always remember your goal—to develop a deep and lasting connection with your
child in order to help him heal and grow. Much will be required of your child along the way; even more
will be required of you. In the end, however, it will be from a strong and secure foundation of connection
that you will best be able to teach, correct and truly love your child.