9. Forget about finding The One.
I tell this story of Betty and Edgar, this old couple who’ve been together for 65 years. They were so in sync. They both walked with their matching little canes and had this unbelievable rat-a-tat rapport where they completed each other’s jokes. It was exactly what you want for yourself after a 65-year marriage. I said to them, "People of my generation spend a lot of time talking about The One. What do you think about that idea?" And Betty looked like she just wanted to slap me, frankly. She was disgusted. "What are you talking about? That’s ridiculous. Listen, if I hadn’t married Edgar, I would’ve been married to somebody else for 65 years. I would have made that work.