I’ll see Grant’s dating groups with four of my own that I think apply pretty neatly to daters in the UK.
Let’s start with the Dating by Numbers group. They’re all about giving themselves the best possible chance to meet someone. They’ll date friends of friends, do online dating, go speed dating, and generally get out there. They’re totally ok with dating multiple people at the same time, after all, it’s all about notching those dates up.
I know what you’re thinking, this group sounds a lot like Grant’s Cool Logicians don’t they? But there’s one big difference: these guys probably only make up about 10% of the UK dating population and – especially if our Advice site is anything to go by – they’re not a popular group. The general feeling is that Mr or Ms Dating by Numbers is always on the lookout for something better, and no one wants to be on the receiving end of that behaviour.
But it’s important to remember that our definition of dating differs from the US. Dating in the UK can often imply the start of a relationship. Whereas, from what I know about US dating culture, it’s a more casual activity where a simple coffee date has very little agenda.
We’ll call group two Hoping for the Best. They’re single, many of them would love to meet someone (they’re romantics at heart), but they’re not the most proactive of people. Their approach is to go about their everyday lives, and hope they’ll bump into someone – hey, sometimes it works! Generally the dating life of someone Hoping for the Best goes something like:
1. Tell all their friends and family they want to meet someone new
2. Get set up intermittently by aforementioned friends and family, with mixed results
3. Open an internet dating account on January 1st, only to abandon it a few months later when their perfect man/woman doesn’t immediately drop into their inbox
4. Drink a bit too much at most social occasions and hope alcohol will make it easier to talk to the opposite sex
5. Keep fingers crossed at all times
6. Finally meet someone inappropriate, date for a while, realise they’re not at all compatible and return to step 1!
I estimate they make up about 60% of the UK population.
Next, we have The Realists. They know, just as the Dating by Numbers group do, that opening up your options is a good idea, and they’ll often be found online dating. But they can be so realistic that, in true British style, they get down on themselves and decide that they might as well just ‘settle’. A typical realist would like to believe in true love, but life’s hard knocks have chiseled them into a cynical dater. They’ve been on the scene for a while and have decided that as long as they meet someone, they might be ok. My very unscientific survey tells me they make up about 20% of the UK dating population.
And finally, we have The Strategists. They are the Special Ops force of dating. They plan their every move with a view to meeting someone. They decide which parties they go to based on the number of single people there, they choose their friends based on whether they’ll help them open up their single network and they join clubs and classes in order to meet more single people. They know what they want – they often have a very specific idea of the person they want to meet in mind – and they’re going out to get it. Unlike the Dating by Numbers group, they don’t date excessively, they just date smart. Unfortunately, this stealth approach is a bit off-putting when it comes to love. Thankfully, they’re a small portion of the dating population, around 10%
จะเห็นเงินช่วยเหลือของนัดกลุ่มกับสี่ของตัวเองที่คิดว่า สวยอย่างกับ daters ในสหราชอาณาจักรเริ่ม ด้วยเดทนี้ด้วยหมายเลขกลุ่ม พวกเขาต้องการให้ตัวเองดีที่สุดได้โอกาสที่จะพบบางคน พวกเขาจะวันเพื่อนของเพื่อน ทำหาคู่ออนไลน์ ไปเดทความเร็ว และโดยทั่วไปได้ออกมี พวกเขากำลังทั้งหมดตกลงกับนัดหลายคนในเวลาเดียวกัน หลังจากที่ทุก ทุกอย่างเกี่ยวกับบากวันนั้นค่าฉันรู้ว่าคุณคิดว่า เสียงกลุ่มนี้มากเช่นเงินช่วยเหลือของ Logicians เย็นไม่พวกเขา แต่มีความแตกต่างใหญ่หนึ่ง: นี่ผมคงให้ขึ้นประมาณ 10% ของสหราชอาณาจักรเดทประชากร และ – โดยเฉพาะอย่างยิ่งหากเว็บไซต์คำแนะนำของเราเป็นอะไรไป ด้วย – พวกเขาไม่นิยมกลุ่ม ความรู้สึกทั่วไปคือ นายหรือเดทนี้ Ms โดยตัวเลขอยู่เสมอมองหาสิ่งที่ดีกว่า และไม่มีใครอยากจะรับในของพฤติกรรมที่แต่สิ่งสำคัญคือต้องจำไว้ว่า นิยามของเรานัดแตกต่างจากสหรัฐอเมริกา หาคู่ในสหราชอาณาจักรสามารถมักเป็นสิทธิ์แบบเริ่มต้นของความสัมพันธ์ โดยที่ จากอะไรผมรู้เราเดทวัฒนธรรม เป็นกิจกรรมหนึ่งวันกาแฟอย่าง มีวาระการประชุมน้อยมากเราจะเรียกกลุ่มสองหวังดีที่สุด อยู่เดียว หลายรักพบบางคน (พวกเราพร้อมที่พัก), แต่พวกเขาไม่เชิงรุกมากที่สุดของคน วิธีการของพวกเขาเป็นไปของชีวิตประจำวัน และหวังว่าพวกเขาจะชนคน – hey บางครั้งทำงาน โดยทั่วไปอายุหาคู่ของคน Hoping สุดไปบางสิ่งบางอย่างเช่น:1. Tell all their friends and family they want to meet someone new2. Get set up intermittently by aforementioned friends and family, with mixed results3. Open an internet dating account on January 1st, only to abandon it a few months later when their perfect man/woman doesn’t immediately drop into their inbox4. Drink a bit too much at most social occasions and hope alcohol will make it easier to talk to the opposite sex5. Keep fingers crossed at all times6. Finally meet someone inappropriate, date for a while, realise they’re not at all compatible and return to step 1!I estimate they make up about 60% of the UK population.Next, we have The Realists. They know, just as the Dating by Numbers group do, that opening up your options is a good idea, and they’ll often be found online dating. But they can be so realistic that, in true British style, they get down on themselves and decide that they might as well just ‘settle’. A typical realist would like to believe in true love, but life’s hard knocks have chiseled them into a cynical dater. They’ve been on the scene for a while and have decided that as long as they meet someone, they might be ok. My very unscientific survey tells me they make up about 20% of the UK dating population.And finally, we have The Strategists. They are the Special Ops force of dating. They plan their every move with a view to meeting someone. They decide which parties they go to based on the number of single people there, they choose their friends based on whether they’ll help them open up their single network and they join clubs and classes in order to meet more single people. They know what they want – they often have a very specific idea of the person they want to meet in mind – and they’re going out to get it. Unlike the Dating by Numbers group, they don’t date excessively, they just date smart. Unfortunately, this stealth approach is a bit off-putting when it comes to love. Thankfully, they’re a small portion of the dating population, around 10%
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