there are a few things that led to this change, but it started with a car accident, and while I personally wasn't injured or at fault, it left me in a situation that forced me to grow up quickly, my priorities had to change.
Then, my partner and I had children, things had to change more, and some things had to go entirely, I had to step up and learn to be a new person. The person I was five years ago was selfish and self centred, he could not do what was needed and so, he had to go and that meant I had to face some harsh truths about myself, before you can improve, you have to admit to your problems and accept them, that was hard, but looking back, I'm happy I did it.