My apologies for the delay in responding to your email, this summer has been busy for me.
You are right it is not healthy to fear that your mother will abandon you, a mother should always be there for their child, I will make a conscious effort to keep the lines of communication open.
I will refrain from impulsive communications via text and emails, you are correct just believing what people say is not an accurate representation of the truth. There are always two sides to any story . I will make the conscious effort to address my concerns differently in the future, you are correct a healthy relationship does not include slanderous emails/notes/conversations about the other person.
Bullying is not constructive, it does not build a person up. If my effort to express my opinion on matters has been interpreted as bullying you, then I feel sad and I will try to do better . A child, even if they are grown up should feel encouraged by their parent. You should feel free to make your own decisions concerning your life as you are an adult and i will make every effort to express positive support of your decisions. I will refrain from expressing my opinion if is differs from yours as I now realize this is interpreted as hurtful to you.
I acknowledge that you feel I have made hateful accusations towards you including being slanderous, negative, shaming and attacking, this was not my intended message for you. I will watch my tone and choose my words more carefully in the future.
I will also make every effort to refrain from making negative comparisons.
Boundaries are so important and honoring the need to enforce them is also important. I will try to not feel abandoned in these times. and will trust that the time chosen to refrain from contact is there for a healthy reason.
I hope that we can build a healthy relationship with each other. One that is build on trust and sharing and positive support. I am going to make every effort to work on developing a healthy relationship with you.