I refuse your help!
It's not true " I do not want you in my thoughts and family" Because I Love You I do not want to exploit you I do not want you to have to work harder and have problem. Which you have to take care and send money to me. But I can not help you anything. I thinking "I still have the ability to work and take care of themselves". I does not require you to be worried because I am.
And I want to make my parents happy. Because I have a job to take care of myself. You are a father and have children, you would want to see your children succeed, you have a job and take care of his life as well. My parents is same.