I cannot force you to do anything. I'm not sure what you're afraid of, and that's actually somewhat offensive that you say you're scared of having lunch with me. That said, I know you don't mean it that way, so never mind.
I've enjoyed our conversations, in particular being able to honestly share with you my feelings about many things and
not feeling as if I was being judged. Thank you. However, it's hard for me to continue sharing my thoughts and feelings with someone who is apparently too afraid/shy/etc to even see my face. Sorry.