How did Miranda ask for permission to give Will feedback? How did he react?
Miranda did a good job starting the conversation, simply saying, "a few things came up that I’d like to discuss," and asked for permission indirectly, asking, "can I be frank?" As a result, Will reacted openly and was ready to talk.
Was she objective and fact-based when she shared her observations?
Miranda got off to a rough start by saying "there were a few awkward moments." In response, Will crossed his arms and reacted defensively, saying "Really? I didn’t feel that way."
Still, she quickly corrected herself by saying, "here’s what I noticed," and describing the fact that they had talked over each other. When she made these observations, Will disagreed, but was less defensive.
How did she share the impact of Will’s actions?
When Miranda said, "What worries me is that it gives the client the impression that we’re not on the same page," she did a good job expressing her feelings about the event (much like the "I" statements described earlier in the course). Will agreed and immediately offered a solution. ("Do you want me to step back?")
Did she pause after she stated the impact of Will’s actions?
Miranda didn’t pause after she stated the impact. This may have been because Will immediately began considering a solution. ("Do you want me to step back?")
Did Miranda and Will engage in a solution-focused dialogue? What’s your assessment of the solution they arrived at?
Yes, Miranda and Will both put forth suggestions on how to manage client meetings, and after some negotiation, both seemed happy with the solution.
Notice that even though this feedback session was peer-to-peer, Miranda followed roughly same sequence of steps that Michiel described earlier in the course. She:
• Asked for permission
• Shared an observation
• Stated the impact
• Paused (note that Miranda skipped this step)
• Explained what she needed
• Engaged in a solution-focused dialogue
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