Most of you respect coaches who put winning in perspective and teach players it's just one part of the game. Naturally, you want to win - but you also want the enjoyment of playing well, learning, and working as a team. Kim, 13, told us, "A good coach isn't obsessed with winning but will motivate you and your team to want to win."
Winning seemed to be slightly more important to guys than girls in our survey: 17% of the guys who answered said coaches should care most about winning compared to only 7% of girls.