Silence Is Golden
Now that we’re back from this trip down memory lane, you are probably wondering, well, how can you test a relationship by playing the quiet game? Basically, I have categorized three types of silence.
All you have to do is try being quiet with the person in question and I guarantee you will quickly be able to classify the silence. Based on the results, you will know the strength and length of your relationship. Good luck!
1. Angry Silence
Have you ever been given the silent treatment? This type of silence has the same eeriness. Everyone is still, no one is giving eye contact and neither of you is smiling. The air is thick with bitterness. If you and the person in question share an angry silence, this relationship has been long dead. Sorry to break it to you, but it’s time to jet.
2. Awkward Silence
We’ve all experienced this type of cricket chirping quiet. You are scraping every nook and cranny of your brain to find something interesting to talk about to fill up that emptiness, yet for some reason, all you can muster is how awful the awkward silence is! This kind of silence is only acceptable on the first date.
It’s part of the first date curse. Any guy who is kind enough to take a girl out on a nice formal dinner and any girl who takes the time and effort to primp herself before the first date is bound to experience this most unfortunate curse.
However, if you have been friends with this person for a long time, have been working with them for ages, have been dating for years, or are married to them, and are still experiencing the awkward silence routinely…then…umm…your relationship is on the rocks. Don’t worry, though, there is still time to salvage the relationship.
I personally love awkwardness. I usually tend to burst out laughing in awkward situations, creating an even greater awkward environment. What can I say?
It gives me great material to discuss with my friends (or write about for Elite Daily). Seriously though, I think the more awkward, the better because it’s such a genuine feeling. If you learn to embrace the awkward silence, soon enough it will melt away.
3. Comfortable Silence
My favorite author, J.D. Salinger, best describes this type of silence in “The Catcher and The Rye.”