Eventually she asked me if she could see me and go with me. Her name is Da.
We started spending some time together even though she was "working".
I saw her every time I came back to Thailand. I just liked her but she wanted to spend more and more time with me.
Eventually I feel in love with her because of the nice things she did for me and that she was not shy to be with me. Yes..and she was still a bar girl...
When I went back to South Africa for work, she sent me a message every day telling me that she had never loved a man before but that her heart was telling her that she loves me and that she misses me.
She begged me to come back to Thailand to be with her. She told me she wanted to get married to me, be my wife and start a family.
I was very busy with modeling and TV work and could not go back but she begged me to come back.
I missed her too and eventually I resigned form the modeling company to go back to Thailand to be with her. My agent (boss) at the company cried because I wanted to leave and not come back. I was starting to become "famous" with the modeling and TV work and she told me that I can become a superstar if I stayed in South Africa. I said no..I wanted to be with Da.
I went back to Thailand in December 2004 and she wanted to get married as soon as possible.
I was not afraid and felt good about getting married so I said yes.
She phoned her mother to arrange the wedding and we went to her village and got marries on New Year's day 2005. It was just a Buddhist wedding but the whole village was there.
No papers and nothing "legal"...no embassies.
Little did I know what was going to happen...
We went back to Pattaya after 2 days at her home and after another 2 days in Pattaya...she left me.
She had a fight with me and then just disappeared. I was sick with worry. I phoned her and she did not answer her phone. She came to the apartment one night when I was not there and took all her clothes and toiletries.
She phoned me after about 10 days and told me she missed me and loves me but if I want her to come back I have to buy her mother a house. I told her to get lost and leave me alone.
So, there I was, alone and heartbroken again. Even my friends were laughing at me because of what this bar girl did to me.
I was stupid and naive...
I have never been so humiliated in all my life because of what she did to me.
I gave up my whole life in South Africa to be with her...and she lied to me and stole my money. She never cared about me. It was all a lie to steal money. I lost about 125000 Baht, my heart and my dignity.
Why did I never tell you about Da?
It is not something I like to talk about and I am shy to talk about it.
The time was also not right to tell you and it was a very sad time in my life again about love.