Who Pays Sin Sod?
Any man marrying a Thai woman is expected to pay Sin Sod. The price is usually agreed between the two families, yet where a foreigner is concerned and his parents aren’t present, the duty falls on him to ask the family how much they expect.
Who Doesn’t Pay Sin Sod?
In the modern day many families don’t expect Sin Sod, and many will tell the boyfriend that they don’t want any money. However, it is very rare that money isn’t shown at the wedding, albeit that it is returned in full afterwards.
*It should be noted that to expect the money back or to ask for it back is unacceptable. One will be offered it back if that is to be the case. Also note that you may not be required to pay Sin Sod if the woman you are marrying has been married before. See the section below for more details.
How Much Should I Be Paying For Sin Sod?
Historically this has (generally) depended on six factors, as listed and discussed below:
Family Name
Education
Prior Marital Status
Dependants
Job
Age
1. If your girlfriend is from a well-to-do family, you could be looking at a fair lump. However, in this situation, the money will most likely be for show and returned to you after the wedding.
2. If your girlfriend is university educated or beyond, then it is likely that you will be looking at a minimum of 300,000 Baht. This is a low-moderate amount by modern-day Thai standards. For example, a friend at my girlfriend’s work is soon to marry a Thai lady of a high school level education, and he is paying 200,000 Baht. His salary is approximately 25,000 per month.
3. If your girlfriend has been married before, then you should pay less. You might argue – on grounds of tradition – that you shouldn’t be paying at all. However, as a respectful gesture, and to show your respect, you should offer something.
Remember that marriage is intended to happen once in Thai culture, and therefore importance is emphasized on marrying for the first time. Unlike second and third marriages in the west, which may be seen as equally as important and “true love” matches, in Thailand they are not that much of a big deal. Superstar second and third marriages are the exception.
4. If your girlfriend has kids, tradition dictates that you should pay less. This stems from the age-old thinking that she is tainted in some way, already given to another man, so to speak. You will become responsible for another man’s seed, and for that you shouldn’t be paying for the privilege. (Not my words, I might add)
5. In terms of a woman’s employment, it’s hierarchical and usually correlates with education and earnings. For example, you’d pay/show more to marry a banker than a cleaner.
ใครคือผู้ชำระบาปสดคนแต่งเป็นผู้หญิงไทยคาดว่าจะจ่ายสดความบาป มักจะมีตกลงราคาระหว่างสองครอบครัว ได้ที่ชาวต่างชาติเกี่ยวข้อง และพ่อไม่มี หน้าที่ตรงกับที่เขาต้องถามครอบครัวว่าพวกเขาคาดหวังใครไม่จ่ายสดบาปไหมในสมัยหลายครอบครัวไม่ได้บาปสด และหลายคนจะบอกแฟนว่า พวกเขาไม่ต้องการเงิน อย่างไรก็ตาม ได้ยากที่เงินไม่ได้แสดงในงานแต่งงาน แม้ว่าถูกส่งคืนในภายหลัง* ก็ควรจดบันทึกคาดเงินกลับ หรือถามมันกลับว่าไม่สามารถยอมรับ หนึ่งได้รับมันกลับไปว่าที่เป็น กรณี โปรดสังเกตว่า คุณอาจไม่ต้องจ่ายสดบาปถ้าคุณจะแต่งหญิงแต่งงานก่อน ดูที่ส่วนด้านล่างสำหรับรายละเอียดเพิ่มเติมเท่าใดควรฉันจะจ่ายเงินสำหรับสดความบาปประวัตินี้ได้ (ทั่วไป) ขึ้นอยู่กับปัจจัย 6 แสดง และอธิบายไว้ด้านล่าง:นามสกุลการศึกษาทราบสถานภาพDependantsงานอายุ1. ถ้าแฟนของคุณมาจากครอบครัว well-to-do คุณสามารถมองหาที่ทั้งหมดเป็นธรรม อย่างไรก็ตาม ในกรณีนี้ เงินจะมากที่สุดน่าจะอยู่ดู และส่งคืนให้คุณหลังจากที่แต่งงาน2. If your girlfriend is university educated or beyond, then it is likely that you will be looking at a minimum of 300,000 Baht. This is a low-moderate amount by modern-day Thai standards. For example, a friend at my girlfriend’s work is soon to marry a Thai lady of a high school level education, and he is paying 200,000 Baht. His salary is approximately 25,000 per month.3. If your girlfriend has been married before, then you should pay less. You might argue – on grounds of tradition – that you shouldn’t be paying at all. However, as a respectful gesture, and to show your respect, you should offer something.Remember that marriage is intended to happen once in Thai culture, and therefore importance is emphasized on marrying for the first time. Unlike second and third marriages in the west, which may be seen as equally as important and “true love” matches, in Thailand they are not that much of a big deal. Superstar second and third marriages are the exception.4. If your girlfriend has kids, tradition dictates that you should pay less. This stems from the age-old thinking that she is tainted in some way, already given to another man, so to speak. You will become responsible for another man’s seed, and for that you shouldn’t be paying for the privilege. (Not my words, I might add)5. In terms of a woman’s employment, it’s hierarchical and usually correlates with education and earnings. For example, you’d pay/show more to marry a banker than a cleaner.
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