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Plan your first “in-person” meeting at a neutral, social spot. Don't leave catching up "in the flesh" too long, provided you've decided you want this to turn into a real life relationship. The longer you convince one another online that you're the ideal couple, the harder the online embellishments will be to cope with when you finally do connect. And be sure to choose a safe, public meeting spot. A coffee shop, restaurant, the gym or local bar and grill are ideal places to meet for the first time. Although you’ve been chatting for weeks, you still don't know each other very well. A neutral spot will ease any tension (especially for her, as she may be concerned about meeting an unknown man) and allow you to enjoy each other’s company in person.
Be thoughtful, on time and low key. It's challenging and nerve-racking to meet someone for the first time after exchanging online comments, witticisms and romantically charged online foreplay.
Treat this person as if she believes she likes you. Worrying too much about whether she "gets you" or cares enough already can easily sabotage the chemistry of getting to know one another. Take it easy and assume she likes you enough to want to get to know you some more.
Stick to neutral, broad and inoffensive topics when you first meet. Avoid going on about how your last relationship left you scarred and in need of mothering/being taken care of/soothing or whatever else that will have her run a mile. And leave politics right out of it!