live in a world that admires hard work. We therefore admire self-control, even when it blurs into painful restriction. Nancy, for example, does not like the way she looks and often feels fat even though she actually keeps herself painfully thin. She feels that she is taking care of herself by sticking to a rigid diet and excessive exercise plan. Extremely critical of herself for almost everything she does, she feels secretly proud when she can feed a delicious meal to everyone else without succumbing to the temptation to eat it herself.