1. Eros [Physical Love]
This love type means you are attracted to people who are physically attractive. Typically, you are eager to develop intense, passionate relationships and like to experience fairly intense emotional highs. It should be noted that emotional lows are part of this dynamic as well after a relationship ends.
Eros Type lovers:
Feel most intense During initial stages of relationship
Can often get “hooked on the look” of another
Can become addicted to the “newness” of a relationship but lose interest quickly
2. Ludus [Game Playing Love]
Ludus type lovers see relationships as fun, playful and casual. In many ways, if you are a Ludus lover, you view relationships as games to be played. This particular type of love style avoids commitments and prefers to play the field. Those who are attached to Ludus lovers have legitimate concerns about cheating and infidelity.
Ludus Type Lovers:
Are highly self-sufficient
Share little personal information about themselves
Can have narcissistic qualities
3. Mania [Possessive Love]
Manic lovers are often demanding, codependent and outright possessive. If you are a manic lover, you likely have a strong need to be in control and are aware of everything your partner is doing. In the book, Confusing Love with Obsession, manic lovers are explored in detail through the Obsessive Love Wheel. Manic lovers can be distrustful of partners and have difficulty trusting in romantic relationships.
Mania Type Lovers:
Obsess over a love interest
Are easily hurt
Seek validation through relationships
4. Agape (Unselfish Love)
Agape lovers are considered to be “unselfish” lovers. If you have the agape love style, you are likely more focused on giving than receiving. Chances are you are also concerned a great deal about your partner’s well-being. While this love style may seem somewhat ideal, there can be issues regarding codependency (see checklist).
Agape Type Lovers:
Have unconditional love for a mate
Have a high degree of passion for a lover
Will put partner’s needs ahead of personal needs
5. Pragma [Practical Love]
Pragma love types commonly search for someone who fits a particular image. If you are looking for someone based on their age, financial status, physical characteristics and/or cultural and spiritual background, you are considered to be a pragma type lover. Many people who use dating aps or frequently visit Internet dating sites are pragma lovers.
Pragma Type Lovers:
Are highly rational
Use empirical knowledge for dating and love
Weigh options carefully before seriously dating someone
6. Storge [Companionate Love]
Storge love types (storgic lovers) have relationships based on friendship, shared values, goals and compatibility. They are somewhat of a mixture of the pragma type lover and the agape type. If you are this kind of lover, a person’s physical attractiveness does not rank high on your priority list. Couples who have been together for a long time often see their love transform into companionate type love. Think of your parents or grandparents.
Storge Type Lovers:
Are stable and dependable
Do not seek out lots of excitement (drama-free)
Have a high degree of trust with a partner