you shouldn't put up with an abusive partner. There is never an acceptable excuse for a partner to hurt you with words or actions. You don't have to tolerate any verbal or physical abuse. You should not accept common excuses like ''I just had a bad day at work!,'' ''I'm under a lot of stress!,'' ''I'm really sorry. I promise I won't do it again!'' You should think carefully before giving a person a second chance.