4. Let the person know you want to hear her view (“I would like to know your perception of what happened”).
5. Avoid interrupting or giving advice when the other person is speaking.
6. Let the person know that you are listening (“I understand you are angry.”)
7. Make sure the timing of your discussion is mutually agreeable (set an actual time to get together and keep the appointment).
8. Let the other person know you will walk away if she becomes abusive (yells or uses language that is offensive). Tell her that it is impossible for you to resolve the conflict right now, and try to find another time to talk after emotions have calmed.
9. Follow through on the agreed-upon resolution (take the actions you committed yourself to and let the other person know that you have done so).