For many reasons,roommate arrangements very often don't work out. If you have ever shared an apartment or house, you know about roommates who play the stereo too loud, never wash dish, always pay their share of the rent late, have too many guests over, leave their gym clothes on the bathroom floor, or otherwise drive you crazy. What are the pros and cons of having a roommate? What should you consider when looking for a roommate? And what issues should you get settled before you move in?
The pros and cons of roommates here is a summary of the positive and negative sides of having a roommate.
Pros
It's often cheaper because costs (rent,utillties,food) are shared.
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You can often afford a bigger apartment with more living space if you spilt the costs.
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A roommate can be company and make life less lonely.
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A roommate can help you in times of trouble or illness.
Cons
You will lose privacy.
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Someone else's problems can become yours.
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There's a chance of arguments, even with a friend.
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You might have personality clashes.
- sharing an apartment with people of other cultures is an enriching experience. However, it can sometimes lead to misunderstandings or conflicts because people from different cultures have different customs and expectations.
- be prepared to compromise. Sharing an apartment or hose with someone else usually requires some adjustment. Chances are you can no longer have your friends over whenever you want, watch whatever you want on the living room tv, or let the dishes pile up for weeks. Roommates must realize that they are living away from home and that they no longer have things done for them.
Some considerations about sharing an apartment
- just because someone has been your best friend since elementary school doesn't mean he or she will make a great roommate. Often living together can destroy even a close friendship.
- don't expect that your new roommate will be your new best friend as will. The two of you may become good friends, but being friends isn't a prerequisite for sharing an apartment.
Gettinh things settled before you settle in
The more you can anticipate possible problems, the better prepared you'll be to handle disputes that arise. First, try to choose compatible housemates. Before you move in, sit down with your roommates and create an agreement on major issues, such as these:
1. rent. What is everyone's share? Who will be responsible for paying the rent at the end of each month?
2. space. Who will occupy which bedroom? If one bedroom is better than the others, will there be rotation?
3. household chores. Who is responsible for cleaning, and on what schedule?
4. food sharing. Will you share food and shopping for food? How will you spilt the costs and work? Who will cook the meals?
5. noise. When should stereos or TVs be turned off or down low?
6. repairs. If something needs fixing, who is going to have it done?
7. guests. Is it Ok to have friends to stay overnight? Is it Ok to have friends visit? How often? For how long?
It's best to put your agreements in writing. Oral agreements are too easily forgotten or misinterpreted.