Shared identity identical twins often experience being in one of the most intense and rewarding relationships known to humans share so much of oneself from ones parents to one's own DNA is identical twins and unique experience and experience which most of us will never be able to understand only three and every 1000 births results in identical twins yet with the unique and rich experience of being an identical twin comes an issue which needs to be dealt with with each of the twins to live feel like this is the issue twins often have an upbringing in which they are given the same for instance as young children their address the same. And they Share the same toys and books on birthdays they are often expected to share presents and they take part in the same activities and hobbies they are even encouraged to share the same friends people including their own families refer to them as the twins in other words the two individuals are treated as a single unit before the age of three this shared identity would not be noticed by the child twins however around the age of three or four most children go through a psychological process known as individuation the child begins to separate him or herself from the rest of the world a sense of self or sense of personal identity begins to develop this is often known in psychology as the i-stage when children learn that there is a world outside of themselves for twin in particular identical twins
This stages more often experienced as we stage and true individuation often doesn't happen until much later if it all this use a particular pronoun this may not seem important to us but for identical twins the choice of eye or we can be very powerful and formation of identity one twin when interviewed as part of a study on identical twins such he clearly remembers deliberately starting to use eye when he began college leaving security and shared identity of we behind for ever. other identical twin never fully go through the processes individuation and remain locked in a shared identity of we for all of their lives this can lead to difficulties informing for filling relationships with the outside world and can also mean a very deep sense of loss when the twin between brother or sister dies
The despite of possible problems identical twins have an advantage in the world of human relationships they're born into a deep close equal relationship something that many people spend years as adults trying to create twins don't need to learn how to be together with another human being at a deep level of true understanding and closeness they have never known anything else