(2) Your needs are important too. Do you know what the top need of women typically is in a marriage? Security. Commitment. These are the deep desires of our hearts as women that draws us to look for that man to share our lives with. His top needs? Physical responsiveness, companionship, domestic support (yes, he needs someone to help him keep a home. If you need evidence, head to the nearest bachelor’s pad). A living-together relationship is more likely to meet his needs than yours.