Don't stockpile. Storing up lots of grievances and hurt feelings over time is counterproductive.It's almost impossible to deal with numerous old problems for which interpretations may differ.Try to deal with problems as they arise.
Avoid clamming up. When one person becomes silent and stops responding to the other,
frustration and anger can result. Positive results can only be attained with twowaycommunication.
Source: The Counseling& Mental Health Center at The University of Texas at Austin